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Personal Message from Sheleana... 

Do you feel overwhelmed with anxious thoughts or a constant sense of fear when it comes to relationships and dating?

 

Maybe you find yourself drawn to emotionally distant and ‘avoidant’ types, feeling as if you can’t fully be yourself around them, and worrying they might pull away at any moment.

Or
Perhaps you’ve finally found a healthy loving relationship but can’t turn off the intrusive thoughts - constantly questioning if they’re the right person…afraid to fully commit to them, yet craving reassurance they want to be with you.

You may feel like it’s hard to trust what they say even if there’s no reason to doubt them. Hard to trust they’re not going to hurt you, and even harder to trust yourself- worried that your instincts might lead you astray.

If you can relate to any of these experiences, you’re not alone in your struggles.

I have worked with thousands of people who’ve faced these same painful patterns…

Many felt stuck, convinced they’d never break free—but they did.

They were able to find freedom, confidence & security in deeply fulfilling relationships without sacrificing their desire for excitement and passion.

And I know you can too.

Understanding How Relationship Anxiety Forms

At the root of our relationship patterns are deeply held beliefs and memories, ingrained in our nervous system through our childhood and teenage experiences.

Think back to your earliest family environment:

  • Was it safe to speak your mind and express yourself, or did sharing your emotions lead to punishment or being sent away?
  • Were your feelings encouraged, or were they dismissed as “too much”?
  • Did love feel conditional based on how you looked, behaved, or succeeded?

These early experiences taught your nervous system how to navigate love and connection.

If love felt uncertain or conditional, your body might have learned to silence parts of yourself, set aside your needs, or cling tightly to love for fear of losing it.

As adults, these "old programs" often replay in our relationships.

Your nervous system, trying to protect you, may interpret healthy love as unfamiliar or unsafe.

Without realizing it, you might push love away or stay stuck in painful patterns.

If we don’t rewire our nervous system to feel safe in secure, loving relationships, these patterns will persist.

But here’s the good news: just like updating a computer, you can reprogram these old beliefs and survival strategies.

By gently rewiring your nervous system, you can teach it that secure, genuine connection is safe.

This creates the foundation for deeply fulfilling relationships—free from fear, doubt, and the patterns that once held you back.

Signs Relationship Anxiety Could Be Influencing Your Love Life


Are any of these true for you?

  • Chasing unavailable, avoidant or emotionally distant partners, even when aware of the pattern.
  • In a committed relationship but constantly questioning it. Doubting their love even when they offer reassurance.
  • Having hard conversations or expressing true feelings can feel terrifying, fearing they may leave if they see insecurity or vulnerability.
  • Rushing toward commitment to ease the anxiety of not knowing where things are going.
  • Moods and emotions being ruled by how often they call or text.
  • Finding it hard to trust, even if a person hasn’t given any reason to doubt them.
  • Tendency to be in on again, off again relationships.
  • Finding it hard to trust yourself and tell the difference between fear and intuition.
  • Feeling triggered when your partner talks to or is around other women in a social setting.
  • You seem to draw in the same types of people and you are ready to break the pattern and meet someone who’s fully available.
  • Feeling panicked or anxious when there's separation or partner needs space.
  • Feeling insecure and unable to bring up your concerns out of fear they will leave.
  • You feel butterflies and the need to stay connected after your partner has left the house.
  • Long text messages during a fight or disagreement.
  • Doubting their love even when they offer reassurance.
  • Being stuck in an anxious-avoidant situation.
  • Fearing they will cheat or leave even when you have no reason to doubt them.

Why We Fall Back Into The Same Patterns

If you struggle with anxiety in your relationships, you’ve likely come across social media posts and memes with tips for healing anxious or avoidant attachments, advice on mindset shifts, and affirmations for attracting love.

Many teachings about attachment styles come from a good place, but they often end up reinforcing our old habits instead of helping us change.

There’s often a huge focus on changing our mindset first. The idea being if you do mindset work and practice positive thinking, you’ll get different results…

And while this can be very effective for some things, more often than not with Relationship Anxiety this approach only works for a short time.

Maybe you’ve been there before, the initial excitement of “wow, I’m really showing up differently!” You start speaking up more, setting some boundaries, feeling secure and confident for a few weeks - or even months…

But then something happens, often so subtle you don’t even notice it, and the body & subconscious mind snap back into its old ways and default patterns.

It’s disheartening, leaving you wondering if there’s something wrong with you for not being able to make lasting change.

But I promise you, there’s nothing wrong with you. You simply need a different approach to create permanent change in your body, mind and spirit.

Here’s the truth, relationship anxiety is deeply embedded in our nervous system...

To truly heal relationship anxiety patterns and our trust wound FOR GOOD- we need to address them FIRST at the Nervous system level. Without this foundation, healthy love will never feel fully safe in our body

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Freedom from Relationship Anxiety

A 6 Week Journey to Rewire Your Nervous System, Heal Your Trust Wound and Experience Secure Love…Without Sacrificing Passion and Excitement

Join Sheleana Aiyana, Founder of Rising Woman and Best Selling Author of Becoming the One for this transformative program where you’ll discover the nervous system approach to healing your anxious attachment patterns for good.

In Freedom From Relationship Anxiety You Will:

  • Put an end to chasing unavailable love or trying to win love from avoidant partners who leave you feeling anxious and confused.

  • Know the difference between your fears and reality so you don’t implode a healthy relationship.

  • Learn communication strategies to speak up and practice using your voice with new or long-term partners.

  • Access somatic tools to rewire your nervous system and build a strong foundation for secure healthy love

  • Transform feelings of unworthiness or fear into confidence, wholeness, and self-trust.

  • Get out of your head and into the present moment so you can let go of needing to rush things along.

  • Embody secure attachment so you can experience a deeply fulfilling, mature relationship where you feel seen, loved, and adored.

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Course Overview with Sheleana

6 Weeks To Healing Relationship Anxiety

Lesson 1

Understanding and Identifying People With Avoidant Attachment
  • Learn what causes avoidant attachment and the myths around avoidants.
  •  Know the difference between an Avoidant who's not ready vs. someone with Avoidant tendencies that may be ready for a relationship.
  • Understand your role in the anxious-avoidant dance and learn how to create meaningful change in the relationship.
  • Find out if your relationship has the potential to transform into a Conscious Relationship or not.
  • Tips for if you find yourself dating or in a relationship with an avoidant.
  •  'Relationship Health' Checkup. A checklist and journaling prompts to help determine the health of your relationship.

Lesson 2

Healing Anxious Attachment and Becoming Secure
  • Learn what causes Anxious attachment
  • Know the difference between Anxiety fueled by Red Flags, your intuition telling you to pay attention, and relationship anxiety in a healthy and safe relationship
  • Learn what makes a person secure, and discover tools to begin working towards embodying secure attachment in your relationships

Lesson 3

Managing Anxiety During Dating and In New or Long Term Relationships
  • Self care commitments and how to prioritize your mental wellness while healing attachment wounds.
  •  A somatic approach to setting boundaries.
  • Communication prompts to help you bring your truth to the table in new or long-term relationships.
  • How to have a clearing: a simple script outline to use with a partner to talk about hard things.

Lesson 4

Ending the Chase and Interrupting Self Sabotage
  • How to reality check yourself in the midst of feeling anxious.
  • Understand and end self-sabotage behaviours.
  • Discover strategies and tools for when anxious attachment is triggered.

Lesson 5

Healing the Trust Wound
  • A powerful process to understand and identify the origins of your trust wound.
  •  How to process anger and move toward forgiveness & acceptance.
  • Inner-child work and reparenting.
  • Building sacred trust with yourself.

Lesson 6

Reality Checking: Knowing the Difference Between Anxiety, Fear and Intuition
  • Clarifying your feelings and needs and maintaining your truth in a relationship.
  • A simple process for deciphering between anxiety, fear and intuition so you can learn how to trust yourself more fully.
  • How to communicate when you’re feeling something is off in the relationship. 
  •  Understanding shadow figures and how they play a role in your present relational struggles.
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How The Program Works 

Experience a Safe Container For Deep Healing

This program is designed for you to feel safe, contained and supported - which is essential for making lasting change on your healing journey.

Six Weeks of Deep & Transformational Learning

You’ll experience six weeks of deep self-exploration and nervous system rewiring so you can heal anxious attachment patterns for good.

As soon as you join you get immediate access to all 6 modules with videos, exercises and worksheets.

6 Weekly Live Interactive Coaching Sessions with Sheleana Aiyana & Georgianna Lee

Join live, interactive sessions with Sheleana and Rising Woman Coach & Counselor Georgianna Lee. These sessions offer additional teachings, a chance to ask questions, receive personal support, and connect with a community of like-minded women on a similar healing journey.

Lifetime Access to Modules

You'll receive lifetime access to the video modules, worksheets, exercises, bonuses and somatic tools library.

+ Free Bonus Videos & Audios

A Library of Somatic & Self-Soothing Tools to Rewire Your Nervous System

Somatic work is the foundation of this program. If you truly want to heal and be free from relationship anxiety, you must rewire your nervous system - we do this through somatic practices. We can only get so far on the healing journey if we just keep it in the mind. We have to practice these new ways of being in the body.

This program has a full library of self-soothing somatic practices for:

  • Reclaiming Your Boundaries (7 min video)
  • Connecting with Your Body Wisdom (8 min video + audio)
  • Speaking Your Truth (20 mins video + audio)
  • Shifting into New Beliefs (10 min video)
  • Releasing and Gathering In (15 min video + audio)
  • Nourishing Yourself Through Touch (12 min video + audio)
  • Scanning Your Body Through Meditation (10 min audio)
  • Returning to Center with Box Breathing (4 min video + audio)

There's also a video in the library that explores in depth the importance of somatic work and how it can support you on the healing journey. (21 min video)

+ Free Bonus Module

See Inside of a Secure Connection

Learn the hallmarks of a Conscious Relationship so you have a vision for what it is that you want in all of your relational interactions.

+ Free Bonus Breathwork Session

1 BreathWave Experience with Special Guest Facilitator

Experience 'BreathWave' in a group session—a gentle and effective self-healing practice that helps regulate your nervous system, cultivate safety, and access your true feelings and tenderness.

+ Free Bonus Workshop

Minimizer / Maximizer Workshop with Conscious Relationship Coaches

In all relationships there's a "Minimizer" and a "Maximizer". In this session you'll discover how this dynamic unfolds and which one you are. You will understand your relationships better and have more compassion for yourself and your partner. It will be held by Ben Goresky (Shay's husband and Men's Counsellor) and Nick Solaczek (Couples Therapist).

+ Free Bonus Sessions

2 Live Somatic Experiencing Sessions

These group Somatic Experiencing sessions offers a supportive space to explore the body’s natural ability to release trauma. Guided practices focus on sensing, grounding, and gentle movement, helping participants regulate their nervous systems. This shared experience fosters safety, connection, and a deeper understanding of co-regulation in community.

"Before taking the Freedom from Relationship Anxiety program I was leaving a long term situationship, my nervous system was in complete dis-regulation, and I was feeling very panicked in life. The course gave me a safe place to ground and start to regulate and most importantly re-build a loving relationship with myself. I now have a better understanding of how to show up for myself in hard moments and that has improved my confidence because now it is coming from a real self assured place."

  - Marissa

“My goodness, I am ever so glad I signed up. Not only did it give me a better look into my past relationships, but also helped me dive deeper into where all my relating patterns stem from AND how to work through that to show up better in all my relationships and for myself. I know there's still plenty of work to be done, but I am so proud of where I'm at now compared to 6 weeks ago.”

   - Kathryn 

 

Receive personal mentorship with Sheleana as you go through the program.

Healing anxious attachment patterns can feel overwhelming and confusing at times.

This self-study program is designed to give you the tools to rewire your nervous system, heal your trust wound, and develop secure attachment in relationships.

But to truly go deep into this work, having someone who can model secure attachment and guide you through your unique challenges is invaluable.

As you progress, you’ll begin to transform. This transformation will bring new questions and uncover parts of yourself you didn’t even realize were there.

When it comes to relationship anxiety, these moments can feel disorienting.

So let me ask you:

What will you do when those questions arise? When you feel stuck or unsure of how to move forward?

This is where having real-time support makes all the difference.

By joining the Live Program, you’ll have access to 6 live group calls with me, Sheleana, and Rising Woman Head Coach Georgianna Lee. These calls are your space to ask questions, receive guidance, and feel supported every step of the way.

We’ll be there to help you navigate whatever arises and anchor into the tools you’re learning, so you can confidently move through this journey.

Let us be your support system as you uncover the freedom, confidence, and love you deserve.

Receive personal mentorship with Sheleana as you go through the program.

Healing anxious attachment patterns can feel overwhelming and confusing at times.

This self-study program is designed to give you the tools to rewire your nervous system, heal your trust wound, and develop secure attachment in relationships.

But to truly go deep into this work, having someone who can model secure attachment and guide you through your unique challenges is invaluable.

As you progress, you’ll begin to transform. This transformation will bring new questions and uncover parts of yourself you didn’t even realize were there.

When it comes to relationship anxiety, these moments can feel disorienting.

So let me ask you:

What will you do when those questions arise? When you feel stuck or unsure of how to move forward?

This is where having real-time support makes all the difference.

By joining the Live Program, you’ll have access to 6 live group calls with me, Sheleana, and Rising Woman Head Coach Georgianna Lee. These calls are your space to ask questions, receive guidance, and feel supported every step of the way.

We’ll be there to help you navigate whatever arises and anchor into the tools you’re learning, so you can confidently move through this journey.

Let us be your support system as you uncover the freedom, confidence, and love you deserve.

What Does It Mean to Rewire Your Nervous System?

Breaking free from painful relationship patterns requires more than just mindset work. These patterns live in your nervous system—your body’s "hard drive, " which holds memories of past experiences..

The somatic work and self-soothing tools you’ll get in this program will help you release those old fear responses and teach your body that healthy, secure love is safe.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

  • How to Reconnect with Your Body’s Wisdom: Learn to identify subtle signals your body sends—like tension in your chest or tightness in your shoulders—that reveal when your nervous system is stuck in an old fear response.
  • The Science of Creating Safety: Explore simple, proven methods to show your body it’s safe to let go of past fears and embrace the present moment with calm and confidence.
  • The Power of Practice to Rewire Your Patterns: Discover how consistent, small shifts retrain your nervous system over time, building healthier pathways that support ease, trust, and deep connection in your relationships.

Here's Everything You'll Get With Freedom from Relationship Anxiety

  • 6 Instant Access Video Modules with Sheleana ($2000 Value)
  • 6 Live Interactive Coaching and Q&A Sessions with Sheleana and Georgianna  ($5000 Value)
  • Bonus #1:  Library of Self-Soothing Tools ($500.00 Value)
  • Bonus #2: 1 Group BreathWave Session with Special Guest Facilitator ($250 Value)
  • Bonus #3: 2 Live Group Somatic Experiencing Sessions with
    Dr. Spomenka Bizic ($500.00 Value)
  • Bonus #4: Minimizer and Maximizer Workshop with ($200 Value)
  • Bonus #5: See The Inside of a Secure Connection Module ($100 Value)
  • Bonus #6: Facebook Community Group ($100 Value)

Your Options to Join Freedom From Relationship Anxiety

Live Program

 What you get:

  • 6 Instant Access Video Modules with Worksheets & Journaling Exercises with Sheleana ($2000 Value)
  • 6 Live Interactive Coaching and Q&A Sessions with Sheleana and Georgianna ($5000 Value)
  • Bonus #1: Library of Self-Soothing Somatic Tools ($500 Value)
  • Bonus #2: See The Inside of a Secure Connection Module ($100 Value) 
  • Bonus #3: 1 Group BreathWave Session with Special Guest Facilitator ($250 Value)
  • Bonus #4: 2 Live Group Somatic Experiencing Sessions with Dr. Spomenka Bizic ($500.00 Value)
  • Bonus #5: Minimizer and Maximizer Workshop with ($200 Value)
  • Bonus #6: Facebook Group Community Group to Connect With Each Other On The Journey ($100.00 Value)

Total Value: $8650.00

Enroll Now For Only $497!

SAVE $8153.00 when you enroll today 
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Self-Study 

What you get:

  • 6 Instant Access Video Modules with Worksheets & Journaling Exercises with Sheleana ($2000 Value)
  • Bonus #1: Library of Self-Soothing Somatic Tools ($500 Value)
  • Bonus #2: See Inside of a Secure Connection ($100 Value)
  • Bonus #3: 2 Live Group Somatic Experiencing Sessions with Dr. Spomenka Bizic ($500.00 Value) 

  Total Value: $3100.00

Enroll Now For Only $297!

  SAVE $2803 when you enroll today
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Meet Your Guide 

Hi, I’m Sheleana Aiyana, international best selling author and founder of Rising Woman—a community of over three million people seeking to heal their relationship wounds, expand self-awareness, and reclaim their true nature.

I want to share a bit about my journey with Relationship Anxiety and the path that led me here…

People often see my life now—running a transformational company for women, living on ten acres in the forest with my family, surrounded by community, and in a secure loving partnership with my husband Ben—and assume it’s always been this way.

But the truth is, I had to fight for this life and heal my trauma from childhood to arrive here…

My early years were filled with pain and heartache. I spent much of my childhood in and out of foster homes, as my mother, battling her own trauma and addiction, wasn’t able to be there for me. I never met my father.

I was a sensitive and imaginative little girl, but with every drop-off at a new foster home, and every betrayal, the walls around my heart grew thicker.

I became guarded and fiercely independent, slowly disconnecting from my true self.

But deep down, I just wanted to be loved.

As I grew older, I was in constant pursuit of someone to choose me, rushing in and playing house with every man I’d meet. I’d give myself away quickly, play whatever role I thought would win their love, and abandon my own interests or plans the moment they’d call.

I self-abandoned because that’s what I knew. And without fail, the echoes of my past kept showing up in the form of anxious-avoidant, abusive and chaotic relationship patterns.

I went from dating men who were exciting but avoidant or abusive to choosing safe, “boring” partners who didn’t challenge me. It was like I was always searching for something I couldn’t find.

After I was deeply betrayed by the “safe” man I married, I was heartbroken…

As I watched him drive away from our shared home in his new girlfriend's red SUV, I stood there in the street awash with panic, and then, relief…

Because even though I was in more pain that I’d felt since I was a small child, I realized this wasn’t about him, it was about me and my unfinished business from the past…

That divorce catapulted me onto my healing path. I dove deep into shadow work with a spiritual mentor and vowed to be single until I was fully “healed”.

I did every healing ceremony, therapy, breathwork and practice you could think of, I watched thousands of hours of relationship trainings and read dozens of books…

And then I met Ben… it felt like we’d known each other forever.

Even though we both planned to be single for a few more years, the connection between us was undeniable.

He was attentive, communicative, and present. We even started doing tantra work together and therapy just months into our relationship. It felt like a dream.

But when conflicts started to surface, both of our patterns from childhood started to take the wheel and we found ourselves in a classic ‘anxious-avoidant’ dance.

He’d pull away, sometimes for days at a time.

My relationship anxiety would kick in, and I found myself chasing him, desperate to close the distance. In my mind, I was the “conscious” one, the one doing the work, while he just needed to catch up.

Then came a moment that changed everything.

I had hit my limit with the pattern between us and was beginning to lose hope.

So during one of our arguments, convinced I was in the right, I recorded our conversation to later “show” Ben just how evolved I was.

But when I listened back the next day, I was shocked.

I heard myself backing him into a corner, making demands, not giving him a single inch to breathe or express himself.

I realized, painfully, that while I thought I wanted to work things out, I was actually trying to control him to soothe my own fears of abandonment. 

And the more I pushed, the more his avoidance would come online, causing him to shut down even further.

The relationship anxiety I thought I’d ‘healed’ was right there. I couldn’t hide from it.

In that moment, I knew that even with a willing partner like Ben, the real change had to begin within me.

And while all of the healing work I’d done over the years helped in a lot of ways, it wasn’t enough to fully rewire the deep abandonment and trust wounds embedded in my nervous system.

That was right around the time I heard about Somatic Experiencing Work.

(The truth is, I actually heard about it years before but totally ignored it because it didn’t make sense to me and I didn’t have a close relationship with the person who recommended it to me… sounded “woo-woo” and unscientific.)

But let me tell you… I wish I had done it sooner, because it COMPLETELY changed my life.

Working with my body rather than just my mind allowed me to release the deep-rooted fears driving my need to control.

For the first time, I started to feel secure in myself , open to receive the steady love Ben had been trying to offer all along.

As I learned to approach our relationship with true openness and honor Ben’s need for space, understanding it as part of his own journey of healing, something beautiful happened—Ben began moving toward me, too.

He was no longer pulling away but instead meeting me with presence and trust.

Today, Ben and I have a secure, loving partnership where conflicts are resolved in minutes instead of days. We’re raising our daughter in a space filled with trust and harmony, surrounded by a community of people who inspire us.

This lasting transformation is why I’m so passionate about this work and why every single one of my programs includes somatic work woven throughout.

For nearly a decade, I’ve guided others through similar journeys, helping them heal relationship patterns and attachment wounds and step into fulfilling relationships.

I’ve trained in dynamic attachment repatterning, inherited family trauma, and spiritual healing practices, creating transformative programs that are both practical and deeply healing.

Through my writing, Freedom from Relationship Anxiety program, and best-selling book Becoming the One, I share the tools that helped me break free and find true healing.

I know what it feels like to be stuck in that anxious-avoidant cycle, to feel broken or beyond help.

But I also know that lasting change is possible.

If you find yourself in a similar place, know that you’re not alone.

Healing is within reach, and it’s my life’s work to help you get there.

Special Guest Facilitators in the Freedom from Relationship Anxiety Program

Georgianna Lee

Rising Woman Head Coach & Facilitator 

Georgianna is a trained counsellor and coach who helps people cultivate self-acceptance, self-compassion and nervous system regulation skills so they can move through life with more ease and courage and create relationships they’re proud of. She's a Mother of 2 and co-hosts the podcast, Wholehearted Loving. She will mentor you on some of the live calls and also has many somatic practice videos for you in the somatic tools library.

Dr.Scott Lyons

Body Based Trauma Expert

As a renowned body-based trauma expert, Doctor of Osteopathy and Mind-Body Medicine specialist, Dr. Scott Lyons helps people to break free from cycles of pain, limited beliefs, and trauma. In his bonus pre recorded module, he leads you through a practice to Reclaim Your Boundaries.

Robin Clements

BreathWave Facilitator

Robin Clements is an international leader in the field of Conscious Breathing. He is a Vibrational Medicine Specialist, a surfer, ceremonialist and a father. He is a heart centered breath facilitator and teacher, and offers breathwork training around the world. Sheleana has worked with him personally and he comes highly recommended. He will lead you through a healing BreathWave Session.

Dr. Spomenka Bizic

Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Naturopath

Spomenka's passion for Somatic Experiencing came from noticing that many of her patients were expressing illness and symptoms which were directly connected to the health of their nervous system (chiefly the mental, emotional patterns in the body).
She is now focusing her practice in somatic experiencing, nervous system health and education, as well as the mind/body connection. Her unique approach is also in working with very early and developmental trauma (childhood), particularity birth imprints, women, ancestral and family healing, as well as supporting grief, transitions, body image, and exploring ones gifts.

 

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  You might be wondering — does this program work? Will it work for me? How do I know Shay is the right mentor to guide me?

I want to assure you that your concerns are completely valid. It is also important to me that you feel completely safe as you begin your transformational journey to heal attachment patterns for good.

So I’m making this investment risk-free.

I want to create the best possible program for you. If 30 days after purchase you no longer feel the program is a fit for you — then just send an email to [email protected] and you will receive a full 100% refund.

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